Nobody EVER Expects To Be Attacked… Until It Happens.
But If You Get Grabbed and pulled from behind, or someone Draws a knife on you....
Would You Know What To Do?
If you're not prepared, you make mistakes.
Mistakes that don’t just leave you hurt... mistakes that could leave you lying face down in a pool of your own blood.
I’m sure you’ve heard all the scare tactics before.
I don't mean to sound like a hyped-up news piece... but the truth is police report after police report points to the same thing:
Ordinary people get it wrong when dealing with violent offenders.
They lose it. They give in. They let their attacker control the situation.
They just don't know how to deal with violence when it's playing out in front of them.
In a moment, I’ll share with you the THREE most common mistakes every victim makes that you need to avoid, but before that let me introduce myself…
Hi, I am Alex Carbonell.
I've been a Personal Trainer, and Martial Arts Instructor for 20 years.
Im talking to you today not as an instructor, but as a woman, as a mother, as someone who would do ANYTHING to keep her family safe.
You see, I learned something a long time ago about protecting yourself.
As a teenager, I was the chubby, funny friend. Tired of that label, I decided to make a change.
I initially started to train martial arts to get in shape because I felt that going to the gym was boring. I spent years building up my body and becoming stronger. I got mentally and physically tough. As I found myself in this process, I realized the changes this new lifestyle had instilled in my mindset, and the importance of situational awareness and self defense.
Growing up in Miami, Fl. I got to experience serveral situations. If I hadn't had the awareness and training, many nights out on the town probably would have ended badly.
As I continued teaching martial arts, I learned of so many devastating cases about abused women which propelled me to proactively create a movement to train women. When I became a mother of a little girl, my urge to teach situational awareness and self defense became not just a passion, it became a mission.
Your biggest weapons against fear are knowledge and preparation.
Creator of WOman Up Self Defense
10 Safety Tips.
1. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t safe — Your instinct is the best detector of danger.
2. PRACTICE TARGET DENIAL
Don’t make yourself an accessible target. If an elevator door opens and the guy standing inside makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up, wait for the next elevator.
3. PRESENT YOURSELF WITH CONFIDENCE
Be aware of the message your body sends to those around you. Like animals, human predators target those they consider the weakest or most vulnerable.
4. SET STRONG VERBAL BOUNDARIES
When a predator engages you in conversation, he’s actually “interviewing” you to see if you’ll make a good victim.
If you stand tall, remain calm and respond confidently and assertively, you’ll probably “fail” his interview. The power of your voice alone can cause him to seek an easier target.
5. MAINTAIN A NON-CONFRONTATIONAL STANCE
In a self-defense situation, one of your secret weapons is the element of surprise. If you assume a fight stance, it immediately tells the attacker that you know how to fight. In response, he’s likely to be more aggressive.
Instead, use a confident, relaxed stance in which your shoulders are forward, your elbows are bent, and your hands are up by your face and open.
6. KEEP A SAFE DISTANCE
Everyone has a comfort zone or personal space. When you’re in an adrenalized state, you need a quarter of a second to react to an assault.
You should try to maintain approximately one to one-and-a-half arm lengths between yourself and the aggressor. If he starts closing in, you need to use verbal boundaries. If he still doesn’t back off, it’s time to get physical.
7. USE THE ELEMENT OF SURPRISE
Most predators assume you cannot defend yourself. If you’re engaged in a conversation, you have the opportunity to use verbal skills. If you’re grabbed from behind, you must respond immediately. In either case, putting up a fight can surprise him and increase your chance of landing the first blow.
8. KEEP YOUR TECHNIQUES SIMPLE
One of the main effects of an adrenaline release is the loss of fine motor skills. .
• Heel-palm strike.
• Eye strike.
• Knee strike.
9. DON’T PANIC IF YOU’RE KNOCKED DOWN
More often than not, women end up on the ground when they’re assaulted. The good news is that most assailants are not skilled ground fighters; they’re bullies who are used to knocking women down and forcing them to comply. Use technique mentioned above, and kick as if you were pedaling a bicycle aiming to face and groin.
10. FOLLOW THROUGH
The fight isn’t over until the threat no longer exists. Therefore, you must be 110-percent committed to the battle.
Yes, we have modifications for every technique and we can scale the techniques to your fitness level.
How could I possibly win a fight against someone bigger and stronger than me?
You don’t need to “win” the fight in the sense of overpowering the other person. All you need to do is deter the attack long enough for you to escape and get to safety.
Won’t fighting back just make the attacker more angry?
Many of us have been told, “Don’t fight back if you get attacked, it’ll just make them more angry, and you’ll get hurt worse.” If people say this, it’s because they assume that we can’t fight back effectively. But consider this: If I break an attacker’s kneecap, will he (or she)get angry? Probably. But I’m not sticking around to see how angry this person is, I’m getting out of there as fast as I can. And will the attacker be able to run after me with a broken kneecap? Definitely not!